Be A Transformation

Can you make an educated guess about what is the most common age when a person suffers through his first heart attack? If you guessed somewhere around 60 then you are wrong. It’s usually at the age of 24, when you first start working. Majority of people suffer their 1st major heart attack on a Monday morning between 8 and 9 am. Do you know why? It’s because they don't love what they do. They don't love their jobs. A lot of us can relate ourselves to this situation. A simple answer to why we end up in this situation is because eighty percent of us didn't trust ourselves with our own dreams. At some point in our lives some of us must have thought that it was too competitive or must have thought that we were not smart enough to live our dreams and turn them into reality. Whereas, others must have thought that it would take too many years to get them to their dream land. But let me tell you, all these are excuses. Neither of the reasons are valid as to why we don't have a job that we always dreamed about. The only reason behind it is the FEAR OF FAILURE.

We being social animals; think of other people and their opinions about us more then we think for ourselves. It is because we are born and brought up in a society that is and has always been this way. It takes practice to live outside the box. So what do you do to live outside the box? What you should know is that someone's opinion about you does not become your reality. You need people who trust you and are ready to invest in you. Invest their time, trust and also money when necessary. If you are surrounded by people who constantly doubt your abilities and capabilities, TRASH THEM. There is no room for negativity in your life because one negative thought or person can flip everything. It can hold you back forever.

To start with the basics, you need to remind yourself every morning that "I deserve to find the purpose of my life, I deserve the best that life has to offer". Believe in yourself. Take chances. If you don't take chances, you will never be happy; no matter what. Life is too short trying to plan it safe. No one will get out alive anyways. Be positive, be bold, and be hungry. Hungry for knowledge. Hungry for opportunities.

Be prepared. Because it is always better to be prepared for opportunities and have one than to have an opportunity and not be prepared. When you know within yourself that you are going to make it, you will make it. 

Over confidence is bad. All of you must have come across the quote 'practice makes a man perfect'. Let me tell you that's a lie. There is nothing like perfect. Take the word out of your dictionary. Practice only makes improvement. Perfection doesn't exist.  

     So what should you do to improve? Think of what are the five reasons why you deserve your goal? What will you do if life knocks you down when you are on your journey of achieving it? You have to have a reason to get up when life gets you down. It is a trend to be knocked down. But let me tell you, not many people can make it back. This is the point where 70% of us give up because of our fear of failure. But you have to be strong. There will obviously times when you will have to rely on other people to get certain things done. There will also be times when you will need someone’s help to go a step further and there will be times when those people will not show up. That's when something called backup plans come in use. You will only get through all this if you are mentally prepared for it. By preparation I don’t mean preparation for failure. It’s just a phase of life. You can call it a mode. Just like when you are on an airplane and when you go from one vibration to another, you fasten your seatbelts. Similarly, fasten your mental seatbelts on the journey of achieving your goals because it will take a while till you get to the comfort level. This still doesn’t guarantee success. If there is a problem in the engine, your plane might crash as well. But when you fall off, make sure you land on your back. Make sure you have a reason to get up when life knocks you down.

Remember the best revenge in life is massive success. May it be success in work, relationship or any other thing that that you fear of. Know the reason for what you do. We always know where we are going and what we are doing and what the outcome in future would be. Life is just like a movie, you know the end. You know the hero is not going to die. But sometimes we just pick the wrong movie thinking of a different possible outcome. Not everyone in life is perfect. Not everyone can make the right decisions at the right time. But I promise, the real fun is in being imperfect. You get to learn a lot being stupid. Think of yourself being Einstein. Do you think anyone will ever tell you anything? There will be a very people who will challenge you and your sink of knowledge will be limited to what you already know. It is good to be common, it is good not to be very famous, it is good to make mistakes because in the end that’s what makes you who you are. That’s what makes you a different kind of perfect.

Life is too short for taking it seriously. Find little things to get tickled with. There are no guarantees. You can't wait to be happy for reasons like, "I'll be happy when my children will grow up, I'll be happy when I get my divorce”. It is reallyyyy too short. You don't know if you will be here in the next five years or not. Make a commitment to be happy right now. Not because you might not be here in the next five years, but because you deserve to be happy. Enjoy the sunset, go for a walk, help a needy person, sing out loud and dance whenever you can and don’t forget to get the toxicity out of your life. It is better to carry a 10 people who will be happy to see you successful than carrying 100 people who will hold you back.

Any person can sum up their lives based on the two types of relationships. One that is nourishing: they motivate and inspire you and second that is toxic: It exploits your weaknesses and they constantly remind you of your weaknesses instead of your strengths. Just like one apple can spoil the whole barrel, one negative person can spoil your life.

This involves one of our most important relationships too. The relationship with our significant other. We all know at least someone who has been holding back to their relationship for a while now. The most common excuse why they hold back is because they think they don't want to die alone. They fear that they will not find anyone good enough with whom they can spend their lives with. If you are in a relationship right now, ask yourself- what type of a person you are becoming because of the relationship you are in right now? Is it helping you grow? Are you becoming a better person? Do they encourage you to develop your greatness? Because in the end, know that 'birds of a feather flock together'. If you run with losers, unconsciously you will end up being a loser. Coming to professional life, align yourself with powerful people, people that can encourage you and the ones who can contribute to your growth. Be with people who are doing what you want to do. Remember to always drive to the top because you really don’t want to be at the bottom. It is too crowded and it is very easy to be there. It takes no effort. Anybody can hang in there. It takes no motivation.

To get to this level the biggest enemy you have to deal with is yourself. There is no enemy outside that can harm you. So redefine yourself. Ask yourself- Who am I? What do I want to be? Do I want to keep on getting what I am getting right now? If you do, keep on doing what you are doing. Remember, all of us are winners. But some of us are producing results that we don't want. Therefore, it is very important to look at our game plan. Look at the pattern of our scripts of what we’ve been doing. We need to start saying yes to everything. Yes to our dreams. Yes to the present. Let the past go so you can grow, because if you can't grow, you can't become the best and if you don't become the best, you will never be happy. No one rises on low expectations.

Touch a spark in people. Be positive. Think of what contribution you want to make when you die. You have greatness within you. And as you work consciously to bring those things out, you will rediscover yourself. If you want to think about anything negative, think about your fight with yourself. Think about losing your sleep because “dreams are not what you see while sleeping, they are something that don’t let you sleep”- APJ Kalam. No one, I repeat No one can keep you off your dreams except yourself.

And remember-"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It's not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberating from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

-Timo Cruz ~ Coach Carter

Live in the day because today will never come back again. Be a blessing. Be a friend. Encourage someone. Take time to care. Let your words heal and not wound.